Thursday, August 2, 2012

LIFE LESSONS: Get Your Power Back

LIFE LESSON: Get Your Power Back
by Tria McCracken

My daughter Mallory and I were going into Target. I dropped my iPhone in the parking lot. When I realized it was missing, Mallory called my number and someone answered! The person who found it placed it on the windshield of a van parked next to us. The woman who owned the van answered. She was very nice and arranged to meet my son-in-law, Ken, to give him the phone after she got off work. She was a nanny for the children she was shopping with. Problem solved, right?

Wrong! This simple solution became complicated when the woman's employer decided we had some nefarious scheme planned! She wouldn't let her employee meet a strange man in Target's parking lot, in a public place, in broad daylight, even if he was a police officer. She insisted we deal with her husband when he got home. Then she called back and insisted that if we wanted the phone back, we should drive farther, to a location she decided would be "safe".

The feeling of powerlessness when this woman wouldn't meet us at Target was frustrating. I hated that feeling and tried to think how I could escape or change my situation. In the past, when faced with similar situations, I handled it the same way I was tempted to handle it now: with ANGER.

Anger at the woman. Anger at the situation. Anger at Mallory, who was dealing patiently with this difficult woman. Angry at everything and everyone. That never works very well, so...How does a Christ-follower respond in frustrating situations?

In Mark 8, Jesus confides in his disciples that He must suffer and die, that this is what he intends to do. Of course this offends them, Peter even rebukes Jesus! Why would the all-powerful  Messiah suffer beatings, insults, crucifixion...all of which are powerless situations?

Isn't this what we feel like when circumstances force us into uncomfortable situations? Victims. Powerless. Out of control. Did Jesus struggle with these feelings in the Garden, the night he was betrayed? When he asked the Father to change the plan? Was he feeling powerless? Nobody was there to hear this prayer. It was just Jesus and God.

"[Jesus] fell with his face to the ground and prayed, “My Father, if it is possible, may this cup be taken from me. Yet not as I will, but as you will.”

He went away a second time and prayed, “My Father, if it is not possible for this cup to be taken away unless I drink it, may your will be done (Matt. 26:39,42).”

Jesus changed his perspective, his will, to conform to God's. His circumstances didn't change but he was empowered. He was no longer a victim. He was fully surrendered to God's plan.

The woman with iPhone in hand held the power. We had to conform to her plan to get it back. When Ken talked to her, everything changed. He didn't make any demands, didn't argue or insult her. He calmly, politely, asked for directions. He moved beyond anger and frustration and negotiated to meet wherever she chose. The circumstances didn't change, the perspective did, and it made all the difference. We were no longer victims.

Jesus let us in on his private conversation with his Father. He set an example to teach us how to respond when we feel powerless. In his Sermon on the Mount, Jesus said, "If a Roman soldier demands you carry his coat a mile, carry it two!"

We all find ourselves in situations which are out of our control. Instead of reacting emotionally with anger and frustration, we can respond as Jesus would: praying, surrendering, and allowing God's plan to come into focus.
Oh, what a Savior!

Jesus responds in love. Therein lies the power of every Christian: the love of Christ living within us. Love will overcome the world! Let's live our lives in the Power of Love.
I know you're trying to, that's just one reason why I love you! ~Cindy

Let's welcome Tria to our Woven team! I've not yet met her, but have heard wonderful things! Thank you Tria for your transparent sharing. We look forward to getting to know you better.
God Bless you!~ Cindy
Tria McCracken, is a Christ follower, Pastor's wife, mother of three daughters, grandmother of 4 granddaughters with the first grandson expected in early October, and an educator.
Tria has served in ministry since 1974. In 1983 the McCracken family moved to Muskogee, OK where her husband, James, has served as the Sr. Pastor at Boulevard Christian Church. Tria has served Boulevard and the community of Muskogee in many capacities including leading worship, Bible studies, and Sunday School classes, and served on the Drama Leadership team. In 1999 the church started a private Christian school for “at risk” children. Tria has facilitated and supervised students from grades 3-12 at Graham Hall Christian School and is entering her thirteenth year in this ministry.

1 comment:

  1. Truth is: we ARE powerless without Jesus! But Jesus gives us SUPER powers! :)


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