Thursday, March 22, 2012

40 Days of Virtue: What Is Her Secret?

"What Is Her Secret?"
Woven Leader Candy Link

“There are many virtuous and capable women in the world,
but you surpass them all."
Proverbs 31:29

As I pour over the words of Proverbs 31, I feel overwhelmed at the thought of trying to live up to this lady. I have such a desire to be this virtuous woman but often feel I fall short. This virtuous woman of noble character "surpasses us all"!

"Are you kidding me?" Reading over this passage the first few times, I remember thinking exactly that! I pictured her like some sort of goddess floating through life, happily meeting the needs of her husband, children, and everyone else! Never lacking for talent or skill. Always patient, understanding and giving of her time. Thinking of others, caring for her home, all the while immaculately dressed in fine clothing.  On top of that, she is the picture perfect vision of strength and dignity.

"How does she do it?" What about when the stuff of life happens…illness, an unexpected expense, unkind words, the loss of a loved one, a broken heart, unbearable pain? How does she stack up then? Does this virtuous woman ever feel overwhelmed, exhausted, defeated?

"What is her secret?"  I believe I actually DO know her secret! I probably knew all along but was too intimidated to see it. It's really quite simple. She puts the Lord first in her life. She trusts Him. She knows He walks alongside her. He will never leave her. When life’s pain is too much, God wraps His loving arms around her and encourages her, even inspires her, to keep going.

Proverbs 31 is evidence of how highly God views women---and godly wives in particular. This virtuous woman in some way represents all of us; she is a compilation of the gifts and graces of godly women. Our verse today begins by pointing out, “There are many virtuous and capable women in the world”.  Yes, ladies, we ARE virtuous and capable women!

“Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again:
Rejoice! Let your gentleness be evident to all.
The Lord is near. Do not be anxious about anything,
but in everything, by prayer and petition, with
thanksgiving, present your requests to God.
And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding,
will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”
(PHP 4:4-6)

Need a facelift? Try This:
  • Journal a list of women in your life that you admire.
  • Next to their names note the verses or qualities in Proverbs 31 that describe them.
  • Now add your name to the list and do the same thing.
  • Read the scripture below aloud several the top of your voice! Celebrate Christ living in YOU! Give Him praise, honor, and glory!

"I can do everything through Him who gives me strength.” (PHP 4:13)

Candy has been married to her high school sweetheart for 40 years and counting. They have two beautiful daughters, six precious grandchildren and a sweet puppy named Sammy. God has blessed them immensely.

She is a Woven Woman: a Woman of Virtue!



  1. Thanks for sharing Candy! What a wonderful prospective.

  2. Thanks for your words, they really gave me a charge for the day.


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